Being a stepmom is probably my hardest role. It doesn’t come naturally, and I know I make mistakes all the time, and I’m 10 years into it and my stepson is 24! But time has also helped us learn more about each other. I used to take so much more stuff personally (it’s still a struggle). Now, I know who he is and where he’s coming from, and also have a better handle on my reaction. I’ve learned how to meet him in the middle, too. It will always be a work in progress, though. I think what’s helped the most is that my husband and I are a team, and give each other grace when it comes to relating to each other’s children.

Thank you for sharing your story. This is the stuff that’s hard to share, because people who aren’t in a difficult stepparent/stepchild relationship just don’t get how hard it is. It sounds like you’ve grown a lot in your role, too. ❤

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